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  I love Jane Austen’s Pride and Prejudice so much that I decided to have five daughters and name the second one Elizabeth.  Like a modern-day Mrs. Bennett, I spend my days raising my girls so they will be happy and independent when they grow up – only I prefer that they make their money instead of marry it.  And if my youngest runs away to London with some loser at age 15, I will track her down and haul her home myself.  But I’ll totally do some sightseeing first.




The Guinea Pig.  Gives me hope.  My husband in feminine form, she just gets more fun.




 Energetic, smart, kind, and will argue her convictions to the death. 






My Hallie Priscilla. Unique fashion sense, desperately wants to live in a purple house.  Loves skunks and fruit bats.


 My girly-girl and lone lefty.  Charming, gracious, stubborn, preternaturally practical.  And ya, she and Hallie are identical twins.

Scarlett Bella, Bella-boo.  Becoming a daredevil. Spoiled rotten, practically perfect.

Mr. Man

My intensely private husband.  Hilarious, smart, compassionate, good. 


Joan Rivers on Housekeeping:

I hate housework.  You make the beds, you wash the dishes, and six months later you have to start all over again.

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"I surely know that there is no role in life more essential and more eternal than that of motherhood.

"There is no one perfect way to be a good mother. Each situation is unique. Each mother has different challenges, different skills and abilities, and certainly different children. The choice is different and unique for each mother and each family. Many are able to be “full-time moms,” at least during the most formative years of their children’s lives, and many others would like to be. Some may have to work part-or full-time; some may work at home; some may divide their lives into periods of home and family and work. What matters is that a mother loves her children deeply and, in keeping with the devotion she has for God and her husband, prioritizes them above all else."

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Being a Priscilla

“I know everything because I’m a Priscilla.” Hallie told Sophia. I could tell she didn’t expect Sophia to believe it, but it was fun to try and worth a shot.

Sophia, who has begun to recover from her disappointment that she is not a Priscilla, but a Katherine, wasn’t buying it.

It was a silly, short, and typical exchange. Hallie Priscilla Cozzens is enormously proud of her middle name. I was worried when we chose to name her after my mother that she wouldn’t like it.  “Priscilla” is unfashionably old-fashioned. More flowery than Edna, but not quite a classic like Elizabeth.

But I discovered a funny thing about naming a child after a beloved and deceased parent – I couldn’t yell it.  It felt wrong to use Hallie’s middle name to let her know when I was really, really mad or insistent on her doing something.  That would have been sacrilege. Instead, when I say “Hallie Priscilla,” the sound is full of affection.  I am smiling. The addition is a mark of tenderness.

Sure, I’ve told her that it was my mother’s name, but that doesn’t have any meaning to her yet. She only knows that being a Priscilla makes her special.  She also knows she’s not the only one – she has a cousin with the same middle name, and together they form an exclusive club.

Being the imaginative little person that she is, Hallie believes Priscillas to be very smart, irresistibly charming, funny, and tough. Tonight she, Lizzy, and Sophia were play-fighting and Liz decided she wanted to quit.  Hallie said, “Priscillas never stop fighting!”

No, I haven’t told Hallie much about my mother, but I think she’s getting the essence of who her grandmother was all by herself.  Throw in creative, a little stubborn (okay, maybe a lot,) hard-working, and good – that was my mom.

There is no better person for Hallie to pattern her own life after.

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Reader Comments (3)

I loved this! Perfectly well said.

October 29, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterShay

Thank you. I always know I did good when you say you like it.

October 29, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterStephanie Cozzens

I think it's sweet that Hallie feels kindred to Alana. Now that you mention, it I haven't used her middle name in scolding either. I do with my other two. I never really noticed that before. huh

October 30, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterSarah

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